I have been out for quite sometime to gain some stability and mental peace that has been disturbed due to some reasons. But anyway! Now doing quite well Alhamdulilah. Move towards the latest blog post and share some New Year Resolutions. 🎇🎆😍😊
It’s New Year’s eve, people are busy in parties and celebrations witht their friends and family to welcome the New Year and hoping that the year 2019 will bring postivity, stability, prosperity and even their wishes will come true. 🤗🙏❤
Yet we all know that everyone makes resolutions for the new year that could be losing weight, switching job, love the ones who matters in their life and most importantly themselves etc. 😊😁😄
Indeed, It is a good thing to do but do we really practice all those resolutions whole year?🤔 Exactly, we can’t but if we practice them with enthusiasm and stability we can practice those resolutions whole year and even get the desired outcome. 🙃🙌
If you talk about me, I left setting any goals for my life, because whenever I set goals/resolutions, completely opposite happens,😔 so there aren’t any resolutions for me. Just welcoming New Year with optimism. 😀😍😊
Share your resolutions in the comments and let’s see appreciate and encourage them to implement those resolutions. 😊🤗
WISHING YOU A HAPPY NEW YEAR.🎇🎆🎊🎉😊 MAY THE COMING YEAR BRING HAPPINESS, STABILITY, HEALTH , LOVE AND PROPSPERITY FOR EVERYONE. AMEEN. 🙏🤗
Image: anonyms (fireworks for new year 2019 in Auckland, New Zealand)
🌻Since quite long I have been witnessing the people who are committing suicide, and some of the reasons are still unknown to everyone. Unfortunately, we cannot curb it. Many times, we notice that the people who are close to us are suffering from mental illness (due to any other reason), but what we do frequently? . . . 🌻If we find someone who needs help mentally or emotionally, we just utter few typical quotes, comparing them with the destitute people that someone else suffering more than you do, or started to judge them due to any mental illness. .
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. 🌻Suggesting them to pray, to remain patient, judging them for having a mental issue will only worsen the situation instead of reduction. The person might feel that you are only playing with your words. I am not saying that does not talk positive or sympathising with them but try to take assistance from Medical. It would be the most substantial favour for them because laying word games do not help the person who is suffering.
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. 🌻It is not any shame to seek help from Psychiatrists to counter your mental issues, it is same as we suffer from Fever or Flu and seek medical help from a General Physician. Try to bring awareness that people who need your help in countering their psychological sickness be more practical.
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🌻Indeed, religion aids in this situation as well (I completely agree) but medical aid is compulsory in this case. Losing or let them suffer alone this issue might be hazardous for them. Be more concern towards them because they are masking their emotions but let them blow out the thoughts that bothers. .
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Hey there readers! I’ve been quite busy and even stuck in my mundane work and even in the Shopping (as Ramzan and Eid are around the corner).🕌 Due to this, I could not even continue my Self Peace Development course and the blog posts. 🕊 I can understand that everyone should manage, I have to post motivation or my encouraging thoughts that help a lot you guys after every second day, but I’m working on it though. 😀 It’s a pleasure for me that you guys love my words and thoughts.❤🌻
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🌸 Be an encourager for everyone because you never know what kind of circumstances they are going through. .
SELF-PEACE DEVELOPMENT COURSE – THE AWAKENING (DAY 5)
*Opinion
The fifth day, of course, was on Empathy by Anita Nowak, a lecture from TEDx Montreal Women (The power of empathy). Empathy is the power of understanding other person’s feelings, views from their point of view rather than yours. According to St. Francis of Assisi:
“All the darkness in the world cannot extinguish the light of a single candle”
Indeed, this world needs the empathetic people who can understand, communicate and connect with the people around him to be kind and supportive of them. With a little empathy, one can understand and share other person’s deep emotions that need to be expressed out. Being sympathetic towards the bruised people would make a huge difference in their mundane work and will leave an affirmative mark on their brain that would drastically change their life, Forever!
I have been the one who craves for the mental wellness, peace within you and highly motivated. For this, I read a number of articles and books that are spiritually awakening and motivating to be a better person with others and with you as well (the most important aspect). Unfortunately, due to some circumstances, I sulked into depression and anxiety that was undoubtedly a worst mental condition for anyone. I am not here to be the one who wanted to get any attention. I used to be in severe depression and have observed all the characteristic symptoms of it. However, Alhamdulillah I confronted my depression. Although, it was the toughest thing to conquer because I never let anyone know that what I am suffering? Or what kind of circumstances I am going through? Precisely, it has awakened my fond of the divine peace and spirituality. Few days before, I saw a post on our most favourite Instagram celebrity and the motivational speaker @humnaraza (as I am following her, obviously). She mentioned about an event held in Islamabad @peacewithoutborders to bring peace and self-awareness to you. Well, as I saw their profile and then signed in for the “Self Peace Development Course”. As they mentioned in their course outline that It is a 40 days course, 20 days to leave your bad habits and 20 days to build new ones. Apart from this, they are also providing counselling if you want help or cannot understand. Well, I signed up for Self Peace Development course and surely, they will provide a complete counselling to everyone without any fees, so more people can avail it.
I’ll also initiate journaling about the everyday session of the course along with the with the answers to their questions. 🙂 so Stay tuned.
When you feel contended from inside, the fate works in your favour.
Being satisfied with yourself is the time when everything is about to turn according to your will. 🍃☄💫
Nothing can beat your self-confidence, if You don’t want to. Be courageous, every person makes mistakes. Don’t take your mishaps too seriously, due to the mistakes, our perception changes.
Make peace within yourself, punishing yourself is useless and even damages your abilites. People are enough to punish us, whether they punish you with their absence, presence, ignorance or being abusive.
Whenever you feel like, your texts has been ignored, your snaps has been opened but didn’t replied, feeling like you have been betrayed, it is the time when you have to stop.
Yes, stop begging, stop sending texts, never send them a snap, not even they ask for it.
Just shut them out like they did with you. Be a mirror of them.
Be a mirror of them.
Do not expect any sort of kind reply from them. And, if you get, them be courageous and simply ignore/seen them, like they did to you.
They have to feel that how it caused pain and anxiety in you when you tried to talk but they didn’t replied you back. Try to work on yourself. No need to work or pamper those who are avoiding you, no matter how much they mean to you. Just simply ignore them.
Remind yourself that, You needs you. The person who can understand is yourself. The amount of pain they gave to you is uncountable.
Be brave and left everything in the hand of God, verily He do the best, every single time.
I want to confess here that I’m in severe depression for almost a month and I could not help myself in it. That’s the reason I could not write, post, can’t run my personal blog even I have enough problem in working mundane work.
It is not an easy task to get up, get ready and work when you cried your heart out whole night.
I have no regrets to confess this reality because it is the second time I’m suffering from this life threatining kinda disease.
It’s severity is increasing day by day but I am trying my best to make myself busy in everything but unfortunately failed. Continuously trying to write blogs, to start a job or to initiate preparation for an exam but this issue lingers in my mind.
Headache doesn’t wants to leave me, mental peace is lost completely.
The most prominent and characterised symptoms are; the person who is suffering from Depression cannot get up easily from bed in the morning, one have to convince himself to get up and confront the world, again.
I don’t want to talk to anyone, not replying texts, calls, whatsapp, snaps, even e-mails. I simply don’t want to interact with anyone or you can say I became an anti-social person. Sometimes, I wanted to talk a lot but I just say; “Anyway, leave it!”.
Nevertheless, I’m blessed with that kind of nature that can change instantly by few tracks or my fav. Cheese starwberry Icecream and by any random movie. Aahhh.. how much easy for me to get depressed or to turn my moodswing into good one. It is such a blessed or a curse, I don’t have any idea about it. Lol.
Initially I was writing how much sad or depressed I am, but now while writing mood turned into a good one. Undoubtedly, quite unpredictible person I am.
Anyway, try to find contentment in simple and meaningless things, don’t try to find logic everytime, it can make you overthink and make you sad.
Be a source of spreading joy in everyone’s life, especially Your’s.
Anyway, I’m somewhere between a depressed or happy person, I think I need to consult a psychotherapist as soon as possible. Because, I conquered my depression before, still trying but I think I need to consult too, even to get some anti-depressent.
The matter is, we don’t know what tomorrow is going to bring and the only thing we really have is right now. So, don’t stay angry for too long and learn to forgive. Love your friends and family with all your heart. Have fun and live your life the way you want to live it. Most of all, don’t worry about people that don’t like you and enjoy the ones who do.
Why this picture still lingers in my mind? 🤔 It is not getting away from my thoughts. Just because I see my reflection it, well I guess so. 🙄
This picture illustrated the state of mind of a number of people who are even crying behind the closed doors or inside their mind, and still have a patience and smile on this face. 😊👱♀️
It is the sign of true warrior who knows how to handle and survive in the worst conditions. 🙅♀️🙌
People leave you at that time when you need them the most, even their moral support is enough. One can forgive them for their abondanment but can never forget what they have done or left them no choice to do. 😔😕
I’m writing thoughts of those who are suffering from the above condition, just so let you know that
YOU ARE A WARRIOR, KEEP FIGHTING, IT DOESN’T MATTER WHO COME AND LEAVE FROM YOUR LIFE, GOOD/WORST THING IS THAT YOU WILL SURVIVE. 🤗😊🙅♀️🙅♂️👏
Me after someone says something mean to me, knowing I am a sensitive baby! ☹🐰🐇😔
Being an emotional and sensitive person isn’t a bad habit. It means that your heart is quite vulnerable that can’t even bear the rude behaviour. 😊
Sensitivity often prefered as the sign of weakness but it is completely opposite to that. A person who shows his sensitive side to anyone needs courage, 🙅♀️otherwise people just pretend that they are strong but they let down others to satisfy yheir ego and self-esteem.
So be yourself and if your habits aren’t eligibale to change then do not change yourself. If there is something in your behaviour then try hard to change it first. Otherwise, stay happy in your own company. 🤗
People often left you without any reason, blaming you for such mishap, then try best to hold them, but if they wanted to go, then let them go. They won’t find you in other ones.
As we are commemorating the 142nd birth anniversary of Quaid –e- Azam Muhammad Ali Jinnah, remembering the Predecessor of the nation who stood up in contradiction of the British rule and bestowed a separate state in which every person regardless of their sect, religion, ethics or race, they can perform their obligations without being answerable. Needless to mention, that the state has come into existence in the name of “Islam” and recognized as an “Islamic Republic” but every inhabitant can live their life according to their religious obligations. Similarly, Islam also demonstrates us to esteem other beliefs as well and do not impose your considerations on others.
Unity – Faith – Discipline – The very eminent slogan of Jinnah, that presented a direction to the lives of Pakistanis, which also been occupied by the Western realms. I would rather regard this slogan as a scheme of life that needs to be applying to get excellence in life. Nonetheless, it gave a ray of hope and direction for the youth of the country. Ostensibly, they give the impression of three simple words, but if expounded, they retain a vast meaning of life and secret of victory concealed in them.
If we just pick out Unity from the scheme, then it is one of the crucial needs of every state. Unity is obligatory in every single department/institute to work against all odds, stand up, and unite in all circumstances, whether good or bad, regardless of races, ethics, and culture. Quaid e Azam was utterly aware of the nation he was generating that, numerous cultures and linguistics shall be in one state, to unite them all, he bound the nation in a single string; he declared “URDU” language as the prime language of Pakistan.
Nonetheless, where few people gather, there would be the difference in opinion. Rationally, such differences are compulsory but sometimes they turn out to be the source of arguments or conflicts. Unfortunately, more than a few elements have created differences in us, likewise, sectarian differences, political, logical and sometimes cultural. Nevertheless, we as a nation exemplified ourselves as the utmost patriotic and cohesive nation according to the surveys. We stood up with each other in the time of catastrophes or in contentment. As a nation, we supported the victims of uncountable suicide bomb attacks, regardless of their religion or sect, every Pakistani stood up for them. Moreover, the world witnessed our fortitude and empathies towards the victims and their families on brutally killing of flowers in Army Public School, Peshawar (16-12-2014). Whole nation mourned over the massive carnage and the populaces who used to not in favor of the Operation in Northern areas against militants, extended their support as well. Incalculable massacre Pakistani nation has witnessed but the unanimity remained intact. Support for our armed forces especially Pakistan Army is not ambiguous; we entirely stayed behind the soldiers of our motherland and shall support them in every thick and thin in all circumstances and recognizing their efforts and sacrifices, they made to secure us from the foes of Pakistan.
Our passion for Cricket would be the superlative illustration of unity. Whether it is Pakistan Super League (PSL) or International tournaments, unity would be a paradigm. We entirely provide furtherance to Pakistani Cricket team whether they perform well in the ground or not, the passion for Cricket will never fade out from the hearts of Pakistanis. Regardless of sect, religion or culture, we implore and rejoice the victory of Pakistan in the Cricket tournaments.
Pakistanis as a nation are indebted to Quaid e Azam Muhammad Ali Jinnah who propined us Pakistan, owing to which we are having our peculiar acknowledgement and worth that can never stall. Whether few aspects created dissimilarities among us or alienated us into the fragments, but we are acquainted with the value of unity very well and have the capability to uphold it, as it is the philosophy and vision of our Quaid.
The slogan was that much motivational for all students of APS that granted them that power of fightback that can never be seen. Indeed, most of them belong to those ironmen of Pakistan who are protecting their country and sacrificing their lives. The love for the country is that much immense which has no other example. The intensified love for protection of their motherland, our soldiers do not have a second thought for giving their today for our better and serene tomorrow.
Three years have passed, seasons changed, occasions passed, everything has occurred according to its timing, but the pain of 16th December 2014 still remains at its place. Nevertheless, a horrible massacre held on the piece of earth, when the flowers that were not bloomed, crushed brutally on the land of their own. The walls of the school painted with their blood, their books, classes, halls and even the furniture of school stained with the blood of innocent children who were busy in their studies or were planning for the bright future ahead. However, the butchers of humanity had other plans for those little buds. The malevolent inclination destroyed the happiness of 145 families, and the victim’s minds have not forgotten that horrifying attack which took away their happiness, serenity of their mind which can never be returned back.
Dear APS Martyrs,
We shall never forget you our Angels, we know that you are playing in the halls and corridors of Heaven and having a beautiful and eternal life there.
Nonetheless, we have not spared your murderers who snatched away your lives and happiness of your families. Your blood-soaked shoes gave shivers to our spine. You were the ones who paid the price for these wars who remains for a decade and we did not know when it is going to end. Your sacrifice gave us the power to dream, to rise and to shine and, most importantly you showed that our strength lies in unity.
We (Pakistanis) showed the entire world how to stay strong and never surrender to the evil souls that have inundated our land today, you are our heroes and we look up to all of you every day. You teach us the lesson of bravery as your fathers do on the battlefield. It’s a request from you all that Please pray to Allah that He should open eyes of everyone who are taking the sides of those barbarous people so that we might not collect the blood-stained books, chairs or shoes. The worth of human life is more than anything.
It is a norm in this country that when you are in power you can use it against anyone, whether they are guilty or not. The person with authority/power can put allegations over any other person without knowing their intentions. Most of the so-called feminists and pseudo-liberals seek attention, if attention is diverted from them they perform stunts that become a hot issue across the social media. This time such publicity stunt came from our very own SharmeenObaid Chinoy – The Oscar winner. There is a point to be mentioned here, the documentary she made on the girl (The Girl in the River), Sharmeen had promised her that she will not disclose her face in her documentary, unfortunately, she got divorced. Now she is categorized as “Divorcee” and has to confront the world, as it is her mistake. Reportedly, another promise Sharmeen made to the girl that, she will take her for the treatment for her acid-burn but-unsurprisingly-she did not fulfil her second promise.
However, a number of people praise her as she brought two Oscars to home. Indeed, she brought one of the most honourable accolades, but the question is, is it necessary to discourage your country in order to get the validation from West? In my opinion, it is a kind of treachery to your country. However, quite a few people disparaged her as she represented the negative image of Pakistan in the Western states. Nonetheless, she is quite successful in spreading the negative image of Pakistan. Unfortunately, it is also a fact that the Women of Pakistan are suffering much, and it needs to be eradicated at any cost. Instead of showing the negative picture of Pakistan, one should do something meaningful to help such helpless women, needed to start from the grass root level, and should be initiated from now. The latest controversy came in limelight by the Oscar winner Sharmeen Chinoy, when she tweeted about her sister getting “harassed” by the doctor whom she went to for treatment in one of the topmost hospitals in Pakistan.
Such attention-seeking stunts do not help every time. It may lead to criticism even from the personages every now and then. Few public personalities have shown their disapproval of Sharmeen’s absurd act and exhibited consideration towards the victim doctor.
Sidesplittingly, a number of Facebook posts, tweets and even events were created to show their divergence and quips on such controversy. In this world of social media, the news spreads like a wildfire and you get the reaction (either good or bad) in the fraction of minutes. And as expected, after few days of this futile hullabaloo, Sharmeen herself delivered the clarification, her clarification statement is as mentioned below:
Undeniably, harassment is a serious and an undeniable fact of our society where quite a lot of women confront on the daily basis, whether on the bus stops, workplaces, on social media etc. but it should not be used for allegations as well. If she can work in the eradication or reduction of a nuisance then the Pakistanis would applause it, instead of making a short film on it and get yet another Oscar. It might be fruitful for the women of Pakistan.
You all know about Abraham Lincoln, right? Though you know about him, I feel immensely happy when I speak about him. It is really a tribute to talk about him because of the unique acts he has performed throughout his life & his character is not at all ordinary but it was of an excellent standard.
One example to quote is Theodore Roosevelt is one among the famous presidents’ of USA & was one of the most successful too, He claimed that whenever he is stuck with any problem or difficult situation and if he considers he can’t get out of it with his expertise then he would look at the painting of The Great Abraham Lincoln in front of him in the White House & thinks what would Lincoln do, if he would have faced this problem?And an idea would pop out from his head which he would implement and solve the problem at his lot said Dale Carnegie in his book – How to win Friends and influence People.
So, Mr Carnegie suggests us to simply pull out a 5 $ US currency note which has Abraham Lincoln printed on it to solve our problems the Lincoln way
Inspiring Lincoln on US Currency
To listen to the whole post as a podcast instead of reading
Abraham lincoln letter to his son’s teacher
Letters were means of communication in olden days and they were used for every type of communication even to convey the love of a father, husband, teacher, student, mother, message of leader, rules of government or king etc. Some letters written by great people are capable of standing as guideposts to guide us forward in current generation also & to say more intensely than before.
Abraham Lincoln has also written many such letters being the president of USA but a letter which he wrote to his son’s teacher on his first day of schooling in order to just send a gentle reminder of what he wants the teacher to teach his son so that he can be a good person in the future is our current topic, the letter is really a thought provoking one with a wonderful meaning and message in it, I don’t want to modify it before but after you read the whole letter you can find my insights about (rather the lessons I learnt) from the letter.
Letter
My son starts school today. It is all going to be strange and new to him for a while and I wish you would treat him gently. It is an adventure that might take him across continents. All adventures that probably include wars, tragedy and sorrow. To live this life will require faith, love and courage.
So dear Teacher, will you please take him by his hand and teach him things he will have to know, teaching him – but gently, if you can, Teach him that for every enemy, there is a friend. He will have to know that all men are not just, that all men are not true. But teach him also that for every scoundrel there is a hero, that for every crooked politician, there is a dedicated leader.
Teach him if you can that10 centsearnedis of far more value than a dollar found. In school, teacher, it is far more honorable to fail than to cheat. Teach him to learn how to gracefully lose, and enjoy winning when he does win.
Teach him to be gentle with people, tough with tough people. Steer him away from envyif you can and teach him the secret of quiet laughter. Teach him if you can – how to laugh when he is sad, teach him there is no shame in tears. Teach him there can be glory in failure and despair in success. Teach him to scoff at cynics.
Teach him if you can the wonders of books, but also give time to ponder theextreme mystery of birds in the sky, bees in the sun and flowers on a green hill. Teach him to have faith in his own ideas, even if every one tell him they are wrong.
Try to give my son the strength not to follow the crowd when everyone else is doing it. Teach him to listen to every one, but teach him also to filter all that he hears on a screen of truth and take only the good that comes through.
Teach him to sell his talents and brains to the highest bidder but never to put a price tag on his heart and soul. Let him have the courage to be impatient, let him have the patient to be brave. Teach him to have sublime faith in himself, because then he will always have sublime faith in mankind, in God.
This is the order, teacher but see what best you can do. He is such a nice little boy and he is my son.
Wasn’t that a fantastic letter, I was @ cloud9 when I completed reading the whole letter. Coming to my favourite lessons from the letter
Everyone loves their kids & everyone expects their kids have or to get the best in the world let it be schooling/ clothing/ food/ comfort or say anything but nowadays parents aren’t caring hardly whether they are happy or not they are placing an iPad / smartphone in their hands and watching them play with it for hours together (assuming they are happy) and are unconsciously putting their children’s lives into trouble which technology can cause if not used properly. But, Lincoln’s love went till approaching his son’s teacher to give him all the education which his life has taught him so that he can also lead a peaceful life.
In the second paragraph of the letter, he states that
for every enemy, there is a friend
for every scoundrel, there is a hero
for every crooked politician, there is a dedicated leader
By the above examples, he intends to pass a message to his son that if there is something bad happening then there is nothing to feel disheartened as an equally or more strong good force also to win over it. This can give him hope in life.
In the third paragraph, he specifies the importance of
Hard earned money which will allow him to focus onhow he earns the money & not on how much he earns.
Deal with different types of people. (which is a very important skill needed in modern life)
The way he has to deal with different situations like how to laugh when he is sad (it is what we call Art of living or laughter therapy in modern terminology).
get rid of envy (which has the potential of turning out a patriot into a traitor)
The fifth para is used to portray the importance of imagination & associating with nature than to watch his son becoming a mere bookworm who would account to be nothing more than a cynic who knows the price of everything but the value of nothing.
In Sixth para, he mentions the importance of following his heart & dreams when no one stands by his side and how important is listening to everyonebut filtering the good and efficient solution from them.
The seventh one is awesome because he specifies the importance of what a person has to sell in his life and what should never be sold at any cost & the courage to have faith. The most important one is to love himself and thus loving people than the most important loving and believing in God.
Those are my insights about the awesome letter of Mr Lincoln, I would like to salute that legend who has shown a path to many confusing souls who want to teach the children values but are stuck at what has to be taught exactly & souls like me who are wandering always in search of something good & worth learning. This letter will solve that problem.
Salutations to Mr.Abraham Lincoln for his wonderful letter from Learning is Passion.
After anticipation for a month, today the most anticipated reality based telefilm propelled on Urdu 1 channel “Ek Thi Marium” (Pakistan Defence Day Special telefilm). It was beautifully portrayed by Director Sarmad Khoosat and Producer Nina Kashif. Sanam Baloch has played the role of Martyred F/O Marium Mukhtar. However, she has done justice with the role. I would praise the team of Ek Thi Mariam for producing such motivating and aspiring film for Pakistan. The entire nation loved and appreciated it. Yet it was bit sad too due to her martyrdom. She didn’t eject from the plane because she wanted to save the village. The tragic incident happened on 24th November 2015 when she was on her duty. Marium Mukhtar was the First Female GD Pilot Officer who embraced martyrdom in the history of Pakistan.
My feelings were uncontrollable when it started. I had goose bumps while watching this film with starry eyes. It reminds me the moment when I disclosed my passion towards Pakistan Air Force, to become a GD Pilot. Alas, my parents didn’t allow me to join PAF. While watching this, I was crying out and was cursing my fate for not taking the stand for myself. However, my mother wanted and it was her wish too. She wanted to see me as a Flying Officer but unfortunately, the typical term came in between the ambitions of every girl. After watching the telefilm, I realized that I have wasted my life. Not only me, a lot of people will realize this fact.
“LOG KYA KAHENGY”
“LARKIYAN PILOT NAHE BANTI”
“PAF ACADEMY MEIN AKELAY KAISAY RAHOGI?”
“LARKI KO AKELAY PARHNAY BHAIJDIA ITNI DOOR?”
These were the taunts which demotivated my mother and she refused me to become GD Pilot. Not to fulfill my dream.
Yes! I wanted to be a GD Pilot and I still wanted to be. It was my passion to serve my Country. I wanted to become a cause to be proud of. I wanted to make my parents proud to have a daughter like me. But unfortunately, my dream didn’t come true. My ambition to fly in sky remained nullified. I don’t want to join Medical but for sake of my parents; I joined and became a Microbiologist. Ek Thi Marium was indeed a masterpiece and I totally admire it, totally. However, it made me feel worthless, that I haven’t done anything to be a reason of proud. In Pakistan, a lot of girls wanted to carry out their ambitions but still they could not make it possible due to typical thinking. Today, where I was in fury and grief-stricken mood but few words of my mother gave me strength, after that I removed her from the list of people who didn’t let me join PAF.
Her words were:
“MERI SAB SAY BARI KHUWAHISH THE K TUM PILOT BANO, LEKIN ISS LIYE NAHE BHAIJA KAY LOG KAHENGY K LARKI KO AKELAY PARHNAY ITNI DOOR RISALPUR BHAIJDIA”.
My prayers are with the family of Shaheed F/O Marium Mukhtiyar. May Allah SWT bless her soul and bless her with the highest place in Jannah.
Time never came back! Once you lose the chance to fulfill your ambition you won’t get another one,
Note: This article of mine was originally posted on Daily Times Pakistan.
We all have few fears hidden in ourselves that hold us from moving forward towards our dreams. Certain demons in our lives whom we confront every day, sometimes they dominate themselves on our willpower or at other times, we overcome our fears by moving away from our comfort level.
However, a moment comes when we felt stuck in a rut. Time might pass by while you were on autopilot. Sometimes, you may have even questioned when life will really begin? When the darkest period is going to end and a ray of hope arrives?
In contrast to this feeling, an enlivened life is one that we are excited about living. We feel energized and awaken for even the most ordinary moments. Due to this excitement, we have something to look forward to and find rich meaning from our experiences.
If we make few changes in our life, we started to assume that everything will get better than before in a day. In the beginning, a change can be a bit daunting or uncertain. It could feel awkward and unnatural at first, though it is completely normal for it to take a month of daily practice before a new behaviour turns into a habit.
Sometimes, when the results are not immediate we may question whether our efforts are working or not, and it can be tempting to slide back into old ways and started to curse the fate or ourselves. Every change that comes in our lives or we make it happen takes time to prove its worth. When we get the fruit of our patience, it tastes amazing and improves the confidence and willpower.
However, we have to stay focused and stay passionate about our aims and avoid the negative people who continuously discourage and holding us back from moving forward. These people are the ones who knew that you have that potential by which can accomplish goals.
The most important fact while facing the tough times is to look for the lesson that tough situations are trying to teach you. Think of them as presenting you with the opportunity to practice patience and perseverance, and remind yourself of what is going well outside of the situation.
When we got an opportunity we started to take rest first, as it will always stay on our side, this kind of behaviour is extremely harmful to those who want to achieve their aims. Do not be a procrastinator and do it sooner rather than later. It can be tempting to “do it later,” but all too easily, we find that later never comes. When we put off working toward important goals, we become more reactive than proactive. We can feel overwhelmed by deadlines approach and stress builds, and we can feel defeated if we fail to make the progress we are hoping for and unfortunately miss the opportunity. Remind yourself why this is important and consider how things might be different when you have reached this goal. Sometimes simply taking an initial step can increase our commitment to the goal and becomes a reason for our success.
Live your life to the fullest and let others live theirs. Everyone is responsible for their right or wrong decisions but if they ask your help, give them your best opinion because if they succeed from your advice they’ll stay grateful to you, so be an encourager It’s one of the most special formulae to spend your life with serenity.
So, do not get afraid of constraints. If you embrace constraints and if you embrace challenges and changes you will become a better person and will learn a lot of things from the sufferings and beginnings and it will also reveal your true friends, or a heroin yourself.
Note: This blog of mine has been posted on Daily Times Pakistan.
It’s been a year, when a horrible massacre took place on a piece of earth, when the flowers which had not bloomed yet were crushed brutally on the land of their own. The walls of the school were painted with their blood; their books, classes, halls and even the furniture of the school were stained with the blood of innocent children who were busy in their studies or were planning for the bright future ahead.
However, the butchers of humanity had other plans for those little buds. The malevolent inclination destroyed the happiness of 144 families, and the victims’ mind will not forget that horrifying attack which took away their happiness and serenity of mind. If we have woken up a few decades ago, those innocent children would not have to sacrifice their lives, it would not have happened if we had taken some major steps which we have taken after this attack.
We know that the Army Public School (APS) attack took place in retaliation to the Operation Zarb-e-Azb which was on-going to crush the enemies in Waziristan and as a result, they made 16th December, 2014 a day of mourning for everyone forever. Those butchers call it Jihad(the religious duty of Muslims to maintain the religion). What kind of Jihad is this? Does anyUlema/ Religious scholar after this attack justified or clarified the exact meaning of Jihad?
Unfortunately, those inhumane people regarded the armed forces and their supporters as Kuffar(disbelief). How ridiculous! However, they are doing such acts which show their devilish and wicked mind-set. It’s the disgrace of humanity if we categorise them as humans.
The question is, does it bring any change in our perception? After the attack, I saw that all our politicians were blaming one another but no one was going to take responsibility to change these circumstances. After 16th December, we observed several attacks on the army and even on the airbase on 18th September 2015. It’s useless to say that we have changed our minds after such a massacre.
Dear APS Martyrs,
We shall never forget you, our angels. We know that you are playing in the halls and corridors of Heaven and are having a beautiful and eternal life there. But we will not spare your murderers who took away your life and the happiness of your families. Your blood-soaked shoes have made us realise that if we embrace our faults and fears before such horrific attacks, several lives can be saved. You were the ones who paid the price of these wars which remains for the decade and we did not know when it’s going to end.
You gave us the power to dream, to rise and to shine and most importantly you showed that our strength lies in unity and because you we (Pakistanis) showed the entire world how to stay strong and never surrender to the evil souls which have inundated our land today, You are our heroes and we look up to all you every day. You teach us the lesson of bravery as your fathers do on the battlefield.
It’s a request to you all to please pray to God that He should open the eyes of everyone who are siding with those barbarous people so that we might not collect the blood stained books, chairs or shoes.
Salute to the bravery and helping nature of the martyred students who were helping their classmates in escaping and several students who were killed while saving others .
Apart from the students, it will be unjust to not mention the sacrifice of the courageous teachers of APS who got a chance to escape from the school but they refused to save themselves. The sacrifice they gave to saving students is highly commendable. There isn’t any award or medal in this world which would be enough for such endurance.
And,
Dear Victims of APS Peshawar,
You portrayed the picture of bravery to the whole world. You proved that we are not afraid of these bombings, those animals wanted to make us illiterate like themselves by their coward acts, but you refused. The pain of losing friends and classmates you bare and faced those horrible moments can never be forgotten or erased from your innocent minds. But we are with you and with unity and strength we will crush them forever. Stay strong and remember, Pakistan is with you.
My words are the translators of my emotions, thoughts, and my experiences which life gave me. I think every experience whether its good or bad it gives strength and stamina to us which prepare’s for an upcoming events of life.
It is a norm in this country that when you are in power you can use it against anyone, whether they are guilty or not. The person with authority/power can put allegations over any other person without knowing their intentions. Most of the so-called feminists and pseudo-liberals seek attention, if attention is diverted from them they perform stunts that become a hot issue across the social media. This time such publicity stunt came from our very own SharmeenObaid Chinoy – The Oscar winner. There is a point to be mentioned here, the documentary she made on the girl (The Girl in the River), Sharmeen had promised her that she will not disclose her face in her documentary, unfortunately, she got divorced. Now she is categorized as “Divorcee” and has to confront the world, as it is her mistake. Reportedly, another promise Sharmeen made to the girl that, she will take her for the treatment for her acid-burn but-unsurprisingly-she did not fulfil her second promise.
Words of Sana Zehra 
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